I had been in a long-term personal relationship , the whole point of which had been to “educate ” and “empower ” me . Truly , this was one of the most interesting experiences of my life , and rather educational However , it had also been one of the most difficult periods in my life The relationship could be described as compulsory , because I was too young at the time to know better
Any long-term relationship of friendship or love between two people develops in a certain pattern . First of all , it ‘s interest , singular or mutual . If [banner_entry_middle]
mutual , the interest may develop to the point of passion . By passion I mean a heightened interest , and a desire to spend a lot of time with the new acquaintance . This is where many points of similarity are found , and two people can ‘t get enough of talking , because the other suddenly becomes a point of interest . The next stage is one where people get used to each other , the interest is not quite so new anymore , and the differences begin to show . At this stage , the relationship either breaks , if the differences are too great , or gains a measure of rationality . The other is seen not only as something wondrous , but as a human with weaknesses and strengths . If the inital differences are overcome , the relationship continues at its strongest . Its life then depends on how the two persons involved develop . If they do so in a compatible form , the relationship continues . Ever once in a while the relationship is reevaluated
The differencefrom the usual scheme and my relationship was simple . I had been that much weaker than my partner . For a very long time , I was deprived of the possibility of reevaluation , because my partner was always right . Even when I clearly saw he was wrong , I had been unable to do a thing about it , convinced that his authority was infallible . This led to a double understanding , and a rather painful latter process of emancipation . It took me years to just notice his weaknesses ,though I had already been in pain from the subconscious incompatibility . Breaking the relationship was a difficult task , since I was practically dependent on my partner , who had decided where I went and how , gave me advice on how to live . And yet , when I got my own opinion , the next reevaluations distanced us more and more until we finally left each other . Since then I have seen this cycle many times , and it can be either a blessing , as the optimal way to arrange a relationship , or a curse , in the case of an abnormality such as my case was… [banner_entry_footer]
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